Sometimes I just feel like a digression.
This morning on NPR, they covered a story about the recently-elected Mayor of Portland (OR) - the first "openly gay" Mayor. I live in Colorado so, while it is interesting that this happened, it's kind of overshadowed by the election of the first mixed-race President (technically it's incorrect to refer to him as simply "African American"). While Barack Obama has his office nailed down so far, the news this morning was that
Mayor Sam Adams is having some trouble.
Again, normally I wouldn't care much (particularly about a sex scandal) because I just don't get excited over sensationalist news. But the problem
wasn't specifically the "sex scandal," it was that Adams admitted to
lying about it, and the public responded with an explosion of outrage. Even [some of] the openly gay Mayor's openly gay supporters were crying out against him, and many have called for him to step down/resign.
Let's set aside the issue of the sex scandal itself; Adams claims that the boy/man he had sex with was over 18 by a few weeks (the legal age of consent in Oregon). If he's to be believed there, and I do believe him because-again-I'm not personally invested enough to have a reason to doubt, then the real issue is that he
lied and that he had the boy/man
lie as well.
Stop the presses. Holy shit. Someone
lied?????I got enough of this during the late years of the Clinton administration. It's easy to use the cop-out phrase here that "politicians lie," but that's not exactly where I'm going with this. My assertion is not just that politicians lie, but that
everyone lies.
People lie. That's what we're practically trained to do when it will help us evade consequences. "Desperation breeds deception," as I say in
Thomas Redpool, and I stand by that 100%.
Sure, we value honesty in court and when there are life and death situations and in our personal relationships, but in the Mayor's case the fact that there wasn't an "actual" scandal makes lying about it kind of moot. It's like me telling you I'm wearing orange shoes today - it's a lie, but how does it affect your life?
My point is that we have completely unrealistic expectations if we are looking for honesty from human beings. If we were to factor in the possibility that people are not always going to tell us the "truth," however we want to define that quoted word, then we'd be more apt to look at
what they lied about and make a decision based on the severity of the situation.
In Clinton's case, he had extramarital sex with an employee. In Adams' case, he had perfectly legal sex. In both cases, I respond with "big deal." We act like the rest of us don't do illegal things on a regular basis like underage drinking, illegal downloading of music/movies/software, speeding in the car, or that if we don't somehow admit to or confess these things then it qualifies as lying. We're human beings! And, while that doesn't necessarily give us license to frolic amorally through the streets doing whatever we please, it is still justifiable to us (subconsciously) to hide the truth for privacy reasons.
As John Travolta said in
Battlefield Earth when asked if he (as a Psychlos) could be trusted to tell the truth, "What do you think I am, human?" I'm sure if that character were viewing this situation, he would say the same thing I would.
Get over it, Portland; there are much bigger fish to fry in this world.