It's not because I'm afraid of relying on others or of "letting them in"; it's really more that I don't want to be burdensome. To borrow a phrase from Henry Rollins: in my infantile/Darwinian mind, the less you know about a problem you can do nothing about, the better. But assistance isn't the only reason we share our struggles, is it?
Other people understand, usually have been where we are at a stage in life, and can encourage us by showing they are better off today. It's one of the biggest benefits to having friends, a different perspective on your own life; a lens through which things don't look so bad. Or, even if they are, then a strong shoulder to wring out some of the misery.
You may or may not have seen some of my recent Twitter & Facebook posts that I'm currently unemployed. As of the end of January, I no longer had a "day job" and have been in the market for something new and equally well-paying. The search hasn't gone well or poorly, but as of today I still haven't secured a new job.
A friend reminded me this morning that I'd all but fallen off the planet for the past few weeks because I haven't signed into my IM clients. I've spent a lot of time on the computer but, frankly, I haven't been all that great to speak to. Trust me.
But cloistering myself isn't about avoiding people, really. It's about focus. I've done the same thing before when engaged in a battle with my WIP, or desperate to finish reading a book. These are the same moments when, as a kid, you took your flashlight and pulled the covers over your head to block out the outside world.
Of course, I'd be remiss if I failed to mention the shame and embarrassment of finding oneself unemployed, but these are localized. Why would I be ashamed or embarrassed to tell my blog audience who, for the most part, doesn't even know what I do for a living? It sucks not having a job, regardless of who you tell or don't tell. You still feel lazy and useless every minute that ticks by while you still have no job (and I do mean literally ticks by, as I have a nice clock reminding me, loudly, that it's getting close to 06:30 and I haven't surfed the job boards yet).
Ultimately, this post is half apology and half to inform. Much like Joaquin Phoenix, I'm still here. I'm not ignoring you, world-at-large. I just have a few things to work out at the moment, pun intended, and as soon as that's done we'll return to our regularly scheduled (or as close as they ever came to it) postings.
...As a side note, if you got a million of your friends to buy my book, we wouldn't even be having this conversation. Have a great weekend...
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